tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post1352860565827001164..comments2023-11-22T21:30:35.388-06:00Comments on My Own Mind blog / Homeschool Atheist Momma: A Letter to the Parents of the "Difficult" ChildKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-88720591794085302202015-01-22T11:50:03.019-06:002015-01-22T11:50:03.019-06:00I'll leave this comment because I checked the ...I'll leave this comment because I checked the link and thought it was worthwhile for some.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-90929643581959291172015-01-22T09:47:27.692-06:002015-01-22T09:47:27.692-06:00The blog topics is very helpful. Recently I was vi...The blog topics is very helpful. Recently I was visit <a href="http://www.iwinconflict.com/" rel="nofollow">aboutconflict resolution strategies</a> related topic.asafshanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12255182373695444165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-53928674621101140122014-02-22T20:53:11.755-06:002014-02-22T20:53:11.755-06:00thank you so much for your comments, Alison.
I KNO...thank you so much for your comments, Alison.<br />I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW that if your mom COULD say these things to you, she would...<br /><br />All love and healing to you!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-69559008621642386122014-02-22T10:54:52.956-06:002014-02-22T10:54:52.956-06:00You are a wonderful mother. Just to realise that t...You are a wonderful mother. Just to realise that the pain your daughters actions cause her family come from the pain which causes her actions is monumental. She doesn't want to hurt you, and when she has she hates herself more. I've been your daughter, and I wish my mother understood instead of constant criticism...which is what started my behaviour in the first place of course. All luck and power to you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-30790829806963306532013-12-17T00:39:08.749-06:002013-12-17T00:39:08.749-06:00I have often felt as though I was failing her mise...I have often felt as though I was failing her miserably.<br />It is so painful and effortful and exhausting and powerless-feeling at times being the parent of a child who is so challenging.<br /><br />I have, in all honesty, talked to her about how hard I try to be a good parent to her. During a "down time", a calm time, I say something like, "You do see how much I love you, right? You do see how much I try, right? So, help me. Tell me what is going on at those times and tell me how I can best "be there" for you."<br /><br />These conversations have been going on for many years now and I do feel that we get closer and closer to "GOOD". In the meantime, it has helped both of us tremendously to show the other love and respect for exactly who we are. <br /><br />Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-60012553692124106372013-12-16T11:02:49.428-06:002013-12-16T11:02:49.428-06:00Sometimes it hurts so much to think that I'm f...Sometimes it hurts so much to think that I'm failing himrkzenragehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07517125926830135976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-12431526340115783762013-12-16T11:01:26.741-06:002013-12-16T11:01:26.741-06:00Thank you... I cannot express to you how much I ne...Thank you... I cannot express to you how much I needed to read that today. Thank you.rkzenragehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07517125926830135976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-1435750791256896972013-11-07T09:05:41.251-06:002013-11-07T09:05:41.251-06:00Is she gifted? Your description is so exactly what...Is she gifted? Your description is so exactly what I see and hear about the deep emotions many gifted kids have.<br /><br />I had a difficult kid. In different ways, but extremely difficult. I'm lucky in that I never cared about normal, but finding the balance was hard. And being his wailing wall was harder. I kept reminding myself that I was bearing the brunt of his emotions because I was the one he felt safest with.<br /><br />Wine helps, too. I cannot stress that enough!<br /><br />On the bright side mine just turned 18 and he is the most amazing young man I've been privileged to know.<br /><br />Parenting tips: first, the most important thing you'll teach your kids is how to survive without you. <br /><br />Second: you're just the gardener. You can water and fertilizer or cut or shape or stomp on or tend...but you'll never make a daisy into a lily. Once you accept that it's just a matter of figuring out what they need to be the best of whatever they are. They become themselves in spite of us, not because of us. It's humbling, but so important! I can try and keep out the weeds, but really he's the one turning his face to the sun. My job is to not be the shadow that blocks him from it.<br /><br />I love the stubborn, the passionate, the flamboyant, the individual. I love the freethinking, authority-questioning, fierce and loyal and angry and compassionate...And none of that is ever easy Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05671279669690776846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-16499758769501396742013-11-06T10:35:16.987-06:002013-11-06T10:35:16.987-06:00<3 Thank you, B, for bringing your warmth here...<3 Thank you, B, for bringing your warmth here.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-69374724743984881582013-11-06T10:34:41.712-06:002013-11-06T10:34:41.712-06:00Gabriela, very nice to see you!
Thanks...this one ...Gabriela, very nice to see you!<br />Thanks...this one took me awhile to write... I just kept sitting there looking at the blank space...waiting...Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-33460455050152256722013-11-06T09:01:20.491-06:002013-11-06T09:01:20.491-06:00Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful and honest and enc...Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful and honest and encouraging and vulnerable and scary and, yet, soothing and magically liberating. This leaves me in tears of apprehension (will I be enough for my two precious babies?) and tears of shear joy because there is no one right way--there is embracing and committing to the journey with the immeasurable and unwavering love of a mother's heart.<br />Love you, my friend. Bridgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-69699229487176264612013-11-06T08:31:50.068-06:002013-11-06T08:31:50.068-06:00What a beautiful process and arrival at acceptance...What a beautiful process and arrival at acceptance and understanding.Gabrielahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11009468362041053140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-11358034582950274792013-11-06T05:15:05.441-06:002013-11-06T05:15:05.441-06:00I sure DO know what you mean. Both of my kids are...I sure DO know what you mean. Both of my kids are quite sensitive, especially to the pain and suffering of others. It takes them time to "let it go" too. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-72139267301005931052013-11-05T20:52:11.661-06:002013-11-05T20:52:11.661-06:00What a lovely post and very true :) I understand...What a lovely post and very true :) I understand firsthand the magnitude of emotions. As someone who is very sensitive, I've had to limit my exposure to things that cause the more negative emotions. For eg news articles would make me feel depressed as opposed to most peoples' reactions of "oh that's an awful thing" then they quickly forget-- I don't tend to forget that quickly IYKWIM. Thank you both for sharing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com