tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post6189571537859267492..comments2023-11-22T21:30:35.388-06:00Comments on My Own Mind blog / Homeschool Atheist Momma: Some Days SuckKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-85962927209978699732013-01-31T04:36:33.834-06:002013-01-31T04:36:33.834-06:00Lara, this means so much to me.Lara, this means so much to me.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-53781381085889584202013-01-28T10:16:28.886-06:002013-01-28T10:16:28.886-06:00Oh, thank you so much for this! Just on Saturday ...Oh, thank you so much for this! Just on Saturday I posted on facebook "somedays I just don't want it to be my job to be in charge of children". I agree with you so much. It really doesn't have much to do with the choices we've made for our families, sometimes it's just hard to be responsible for other human beings and having to share your life and house with them at the same time. Sometimes we don't set boundaries until we are angry.<br /><br />But most days I'm so thankful for the two sweet little beings I brought into the world and even on days like Saturday I still love them fiercely. I know the same is true for you. <br /><br />Can I just say again how thankful I am for your encouragement in my life? You'll probably never know how much it's meant to me.Larissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09586721197750246060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-3133751872997699742013-01-28T09:31:42.286-06:002013-01-28T09:31:42.286-06:00First of all thanks for your honesty, many parents...First of all thanks for your honesty, many parents feel that way.<br />I won't go into that here as to why they feel that way and what can be done about it, I just covered that over 200 pages in the homeschooling-book our publishing company will publish this week. But I would like to tell you and everyone: do by all means not give up! Do keep homeschooling, because homeschooling is the best form of tutoring available to kids! State school is hardly ever a good idea in my experience, but some public schools can be okay as well.<br />But we have had decades in which we watched and took part in education - both in private schools, public schools and as homeschooling parents and also teaching business clients and evening school. homeschooling is definitely the one and only scholastic form where kids do best, because it's all about the love and the kindness and the warmth that they get from home. That is what will make them do well in life later on. and even parents who do a lousy job as far as the curriculum is concerned, are still bringing up their kids in a way where they're better fit for life than the average state school kid.Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314160080172957748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-31848161777476910352013-01-28T09:25:26.043-06:002013-01-28T09:25:26.043-06:00Great post. I agree 100%. I have those days too al...Great post. I agree 100%. I have those days too although we have 5 kids so it gets even crazier at times. These times are what help is break the mold that institutionalized school beat into us. I am grateful to have these days because it also allows me to have the wonderfully happy and exciting days as well. In the end all of it is still better than an unending slew of boring days in which the kids are elsewhere.Jasonhttp://kidquestadventures.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-2899759988381092992013-01-27T21:45:57.383-06:002013-01-27T21:45:57.383-06:00Days? We have had weeks where school didn't ha...Days? We have had weeks where school didn't happen and we took a well-needed mental health break. The joy of homeschooling is being able to honor the rest of your life and needs, and not be bound to an external, artificial schedule.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05671279669690776846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-43378542104422468192013-01-27T21:09:04.986-06:002013-01-27T21:09:04.986-06:00Also, Kendra, this is a very normal thing for peop...Also, Kendra, this is a very normal thing for people to say to me whenever times get tough.<br /><br />I think I HAVE suggested homeschooling to you at such times.<br />(love)Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-29583755462100943282013-01-27T20:58:01.134-06:002013-01-27T20:58:01.134-06:00Last year I had some dreadful flu that lasted for ...Last year I had some dreadful flu that lasted for weeks. It was just awful and the kids were kind of on their own for much of the time. I did make an effort to find structure for them. AND some friends took them away! <br />But, yeah, it's hard when the mom is sick no matter HOW a child is educated!<br />*wink*Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-68197921187783326202013-01-27T20:56:08.814-06:002013-01-27T20:56:08.814-06:00Don't you dare keep your mouth shut and never ...Don't you dare keep your mouth shut and never open it again! I would be disappointed if you felt you had to censor yourself with me... I love you and I completely appreciate all of your input and friendship!!!<br />I should not have replied as I did.<br /><br />(HUGS) and lots of love!~<br />Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-28035356908508304692013-01-27T14:06:17.567-06:002013-01-27T14:06:17.567-06:00One way that days can suck is when people are sick...One way that days can suck is when people are sick. It sucks when the kids are sick, but It REALLY sucks when Mom is sick!<br /><br />In my case, the TV-babysitter thing actually worked out when I was super-uber sick.<br /><br />I tried to minimize commercial TV while the kids were young (until they were teens), largely because my husband has the TV on 99% of the time while he is home, so I knew that they would have WAY PLENTY of TV during those hours. I tried to keep it off when he wasn't home. Looking back, I think it worked well. My kids did so much active playing, pretend, doll play, blocks and legos, art, etc. They were always busy with play and projects. They had exposure to TV during the evening, but we read for a long time during bath-getting ready for bed-then snuggling IN bed every evening, so TV didn't dominate those hours, either, for years and years.<br /><br />Two times when I was so sick with the flu that I couldn't really be a good parent. I turned on the TV as I staggered to bed. Both times, when my husband was able to get home and care for the kids (one time he was in the mountains with the high school ski club, so it took all day for him to get home), they were happily watching TV (while of course also drawing and playing and eating graham crackers and so forth). <br /><br />Anyway, those days sucked, big time.<br /><br />Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14193364064153971972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-33261579890514445412013-01-27T11:15:26.347-06:002013-01-27T11:15:26.347-06:00Karen, I apologize if I offended you. I would neve...Karen, I apologize if I offended you. I would never want to do that. NEVER! I just think that one way for your kids to be fully immersed in Australian culture is to go to school. What an opportunity! School would give each of them a unique experience completely their own. You may be lonely if they left every day. I have a friend who homeschooled her 3 children. She was an avid homeschooler. When she moved to England, after a time, she decided to send them to school. It's been a wonderful experience for the kids and the whole family. And it sounds like Australian schools are gearing up for a new school year. What great timing! Think of the people they could meet. They could experience something that no one in the states will ever experience. School helps everyone pull themselves away from themselves, and it could give them an entirely new perspective, which can be a good thing. But that's just ONE way to become immersed in the culture and to get a new perspective, of course. By no means do I think school is the only way. When we've had bad days and weeks at school, I've certainly thought about homeschooling, and I've wondered if school was the reason why things weren't right. But in the end, we've stayed schooled because I've learned how energetic kids can be, and the structure and the routine and the constant activity has been good for them. When they drop into bed, they're happy to be there. lol! They've needed kids their own age to be around every day, especially as they've aged and their hormones have kicked in. The structure and the routine of getting up every morning, although difficult at times, is cathartic in a way. But that's just us. My oldest has experienced some depression. He, and he's just one unique person, has needed school to keep his mind off himself. I'm kinda the same way. I thrive on deadlines and commitments and work and activity. But I'm fully aware that you and your family are doing just fine, probably better than most because you homeschool. So again, I apologize.<br /><br />Your friend who should keep her mouth shut and will never open it again, KendraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-4729644675823356012013-01-26T21:24:08.764-06:002013-01-26T21:24:08.764-06:00It's good to bring this side forward I think. ...It's good to bring this side forward I think. I've been hearing many mum's complaining on fb that their kids are bored. We are all just ready to start this new year. Cathy Tighehttp://www.healwithease.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-53175972502662401322013-01-26T21:22:47.695-06:002013-01-26T21:22:47.695-06:00It has been hard getting our groups together for a...It has been hard getting our groups together for activities over the holidays. My kids have found that too and are looking forward to starting drama classes and dance classes and catching up with their homeschooled friends.<br /><br />I know you are okay Karen. What happens in your family is so normal. It's just a side we don't really focus on in discussions hey.<br /><br />Looking forward to our movie date on Thursday with our lovely children. xxxCathy Tighehttp://www.healwithease.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-80258362283310047102013-01-26T21:16:19.197-06:002013-01-26T21:16:19.197-06:00That wouldn't have helped much lately, since s...That wouldn't have helped much lately, since school has been on summer break for the last couple of months LOL!jonnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03146414333457441889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-36075218839981718442013-01-26T19:16:59.660-06:002013-01-26T19:16:59.660-06:00NO OFFENSE to you, Kendra, my dear friend.
But WHY...NO OFFENSE to you, Kendra, my dear friend.<br />But WHY, when a homeschooling parent suggests that they are having a bad day day does everyone suggest SCHOOL?<br />When a school parent is having a bad day I don't say, "HEY, you should homeschool..."<br /><br />We did think about school and decided against it for the usual reasons. NOT because of MY "needs".Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-23935461200793327152013-01-26T19:14:43.222-06:002013-01-26T19:14:43.222-06:00OH, I'm feeling fine! This is just musings......OH, I'm feeling fine! This is just musings...Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309932952235453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-67920976660129028792013-01-26T19:03:27.707-06:002013-01-26T19:03:27.707-06:00Have you ever considered sending the children to s...Have you ever considered sending the children to school while you're in Australia? Kids at this age have such boundless energy, and they are social creatures. I'm sure it takes an unbelievable amount of energy to be a best friend 24/7 to Elizabeth or to play for endless hours with John. A little structure, a little ritual could fill their days with Australian culture, music and life. It's something that they might be missing out on because they are not around Australian kids every day. Who knows, they might be the hit of the school because they are the interesting foreigners from the U.S. When you get back to St. Louis, they can go back to their homeschool routine and to their homeschool friends. I hope I'm not offending you, Karen. It's just a suggestion. Neither am I saying it's a cure or that it's something they absolutely need. Going to school won't make you less close. But it can place the focus outside of yourselves and even give you all fodder for conversation and perhaps even writing.<br /><br />Love KendraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357415193462649988.post-36972381012628709582013-01-26T14:21:44.171-06:002013-01-26T14:21:44.171-06:00We all have days like this. We all have weeks lik...We all have days like this. We all have weeks like this. When my children were little and there were 3 kids under 5 and each day would be a blur of exhaustion, I had a friend who would say just stick a loaf of bread and the peanut butter with a knife in front of the tv and veg the day away. Tomorrow will be better, catch your breath, breathe. Now my children are older we still have down times and we still have days and weeks where I want to run away and the family wishes I would. lol. Homeschooling or not this is normal. It's just most families don't have so much time at home together. Love you guys. The sun will shine again here in Qld soon and it will all be okay. xxxxCathy Tighehttp://www.healwithease.comnoreply@blogger.com