Sunday, July 24, 2011

Whatcha Googling? MOHS and IEP

The top two Googled phrases that get people to this blog are:

  • homeschool missouri

  • introvertedly extroverted people
 Interesting, isn't it?!

It makes sense that other Missouri homeschooling parents are out here on the net looking for as much specific reality-based information as possible.  I do the same thing!  I have found blogs to be so TOTALLY interesting sometimes!  I have a few favorites that I keep up with enough to be inspired, informed, connected, and entertained.  Here are some favorites:
As for "introvertedly extroverted people" (IEP, as I have created for this blog piece), there's not much out there.  As least not using these very professional sounding words...LOL.
I can't be different.  I don't want to be different.  But, there it is.  I'm an introverted extrovert.  IEP.
I am totally capable of standing in front of a large group and talking for an hour.  But get me in front of an intimate group, I can't stand up and stand out for anything!

I found a webpage on this little label and it was interesting, but not very enlightening.  I found it a bit false and psychobabbly.
AND SO, I have written a bit about IEP myself, from my own experience and observation:
In general, I find that a person who is "introvertedly extrovert" is more likely to be out of the spotlight while still being very involved in activities.  Center stage is for the extrovert who needs the acclaim.  The IEP doesn't need attention and is, frequently, uncomfortable with the attention.  They do, however, have much to offer and are often considered a go-to person for information or guidance.  

An IEP might be a person who is often overlooked.  An IEP can be seen as being too nice, too accommodating, too helpful. These perfectly natural traits are usually mistaken for weaknesses; the person who perceives an IEP as weak is in the wrong entirely!  Being a person who is in touch with the feelings of others makes an IEP a person with an interesting group of friends.  Friends who will stand up for the IEP when necessary, as the IEP will, often, not stand up for themselves.

On the other hand, being a total Intro-Extro, I have a difficult time with whirlwind activity.  Crowds and loud parties and chaotic events all put me off and tire me out.  I would rather hang with a few close friends, usually as the central talker!  LOL  I am definitely "on" in small, intimate groups.  

If you are an IEP who is dealing with self-esteem issues, fear not.  Your personality traits may be misunderstood, but after you accept that you are who you are, you can embrace those unique traits and become the best YOU ever!

IEP Traits 
  • An IEP wants to understand clearly and concisely and wishes to be understood that way as well.
  • An IEP has difficult working on a team that stresses competition and status.
  • An IEP pursues integrity above many other traits.
  • An IEP makes a good student and researcher and is generally open to new ideas without judging
  • An IEP manages to understand the needs of those around them and finds ways to incorporate meeting those needs into the time available.
  • People often seek out the IEP when needing an ear and a shoulder.
  • The IEP often has difficulty finding an ear and a shoulder that doesn't offer advice or judgment.
  • An IEP feels the need to express honestly and completely and is often unsure about the TMI line.
  • When around a very extroverted person, the IEP is perfectly capable of maintaining a good sense of self and allow the other person to stand out.  The IEP is often in a small group off to the side creating solutions and plans rather than enjoying the show.
  • When stressed, the IEP is likely to seek alone time first, think things through, then seek out a trusted companion to bounce feelings off of.
  • When self-esteem is an issue, the IEP could benefit from journaling positive self talk statements.
  • IEPs derive a significant amount of self esteem from interactions with others and when their creativity is allowed to blossom.
  • IEPs sometimes isolate when feeling down.  Interacting with others can help tremendously.
  • An IEP may have an easy time finding positive qualities of others, but difficult time finding positive qualities of self.  Keep a journal of positive "self' statements and invite trusted others to write positive statements.
  • IEPs are willing to champion causes that mean a great deal to them.
  • IEPs have a difficult time having relationships with very rigid or judging people.
  • And IEPs are often considered very confident, kind, interesting, intelligent people and are often singled out for awards or for job promotions.

As an IEP, I have always had a very easy time finding a new job and succeeding in that job.  Of course, there are no promises, but IEPs have some great qualities!
My biggest problem is with self-esteem at times.  Mostly I am fine.  But when I start to dive, it can take time for me to return to my usual level of functioning.  Happily, that's not happened for awhile!


  1. I took a Meyers-Briggs and it helped me understand this sort-of, but I didn't see any IEPs listed. Wish I had. I just posted on another forum, that I can give public speeches, but suck at schmoozing and small talk. And yes, many do mistake that helpfulness and shyness as a weakness. Not a safe assumption, but it's the one often made.

  2. Just a Note:
    Myers-Briggs does account for the "IEP" (remember, IEP is simply my label for the purpose of this post). If one were to score 5/5 on the I or E category, the score would become an "X". As in: XSTJ or XNFP.
    I don't recall much book given to "X", but it is recognized in the MB.


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