MUST....Rest.....

I hope you don't have the type of family-of-origin that can't seem to be kind and loving, but if you do you will understand this.

I'm taking a break from blogging for awhile...just too upset and tired from the drama.

I have tried to end communication on that end so hopefully things will improve with my state of mind.

In the meantime, the kids are busy.
Elizabeth is working hard at the local community college and John is working hard on his lessons.

Back when I have something to say that isn't TMI about this family crap...

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BTW, you don't think I am hateful or mean, do you?????

This is one of those times I wish I was like my friend Rayven

and I could just tell people to fuck off...

OK, no more TMI...
I'll be back soon with some excellent stuff
from our trip....

The City of Brotherly Love

John and I are traveling and heading now to Philadelphia for a week, then to NJ, then to Pittsburgh PA. 
I will have some pics to follow AND some excerpts from our conversations, which are always wonderful!

Enjoy the beautiful fall weather if you are in the northern hemisphere and the beautiful spring weather in you are south of the equator.

We have been learning about American History and the state of Pennsylvania in general. We're both looking forward to being tourists in a city where so much has happened.

I've wanted to go to Philadelphia for many years and I'm so thrilled it is possible for our family to travel whenever we like to.  

 THANK YOU, DEAR HUSBAND for all you do!

Ascending to Heights

YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND, MOM!
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!, screeched the girl from between clenched teeth, her mother looking up at her from below the mats.

This was the scene that greeted us yesterday when John went climbing at Climb SO IL, a co op class offered by a wonderful mom at our co-op, Ashlea.

John was uncomfortable at first in the gear, didn't like the tight shoes, and felt awkward in the safety equipment, but he and his best friend listened to their lesson given by a facility employee and then took off to climb the walls!

Climb SO IL has several different skill areas in their huge warehouse building. The facility has these brilliant walls just for little kids. The walls have the auto-belaying piece on top for safety. Other zones for increased skill levels are dispersed throughout this spacious climb zone.

I didn't get a single picture of John or Demitri on the wall, but I have gleefully stolen these images from the website of Climb SO IL. The boys were absolutely stoked every single time I saw them! And, though their hands were stressed at the end of the climb time, these boys are looking forward to the next time we get to go!


I LOVE the co op because it gives us the chance to expose ourselves to things that we might never have known about or might have avoided trying. 

OH, and the girl who was angry at her mother when we first walked in?
By the time we left she was climbing over two stories high on her belay rope...and LOVING IT.

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The City of Brotherly Love

 secular homeschool, atheist parenting, against homeschooling, negatives of homeschooling
John John and I are planning a road trip! 

Jer told me to make it so, so I have been spending a shit ton of cash tonight planning an upcoming trip to Philadelphia! John and Liz and I have been doing a great amount of reading and watching on American History and where better to visit than Benjamin Franklin's hometown and to check out his first library, Independence Hall, BJ's Museum and Memorial, etc, as well as the many other historical places in and near the city.

Bust of Benjamin Franklin
By Jean-Antoine Houdon

Benjamin Franklin was such an amazing human being; we're excited to visit places that he has been and places that he inspired. 

The Liberty Bell?!
John is very excited to see it.  LOL

Guess what else we can see while there?
Go ahead, guess!

The steps of the art museum that Sylvester Stallone ran up while training for the big fight in movie #1!

I have wanted to go to Philadelphia for years now and John has gotten excited about it too. Too bad Elizabeth will be busy with her classes at the local community college!

Have you been to Philadelphia?
What do you recommend?
Any homeschoolers who would like to meet up at some point?

From top left, the Philadelphia skyline, statue of Benjamin Franklin, the Liberty Bell,
Philadelphis Museum of Art, Philadelphia City Hall, and Independence aHall.

By the way, in case you didn't know it, Philadelphia is often referred to as The City of Brotherly Love from the literal meaning of the city's name in Greek:  philos (φίλος) loving, and adelphos (ἀδελφός) brother.

Philadelphia:  Φιλαδέλφεια

We Want Peace!

Lots of busy-ness and business today means lots of time spent in the car running around from here to there. It also means listening to the radio quite a bit.

Big news today is President Obama's decision to send more troops to the ISIS tumult over in the Middle East.

The kids and I have spent quite a bit of time talking and thinking and discussing and working hard to figure out the centuries-long conflict in the Middle East, knowing that there is not a solution and knowing that the oppressors are operating with the belief that their mandate comes directly from The Lord.

How can any reason, any arbitration, any effort whatsoever trump the belief that one's behavior is approved of and commissioned by GOD?

I don't know the right thing to do. I have no idea what the president or any leader should do. All I know is that the kids and I fervently crave peace in this world that is driven mad by religious extremism. 

We are 100% FOR Peace and AGAINST anything not of peace.

Simple?
Maybe, but it seems that if everyone thought this way, we'd have peace...

Charlie and Kiwi: An Evolutionary Adventure

evolution, secular homeschooling, atheist
Recently a reader suggested some books for freethinking parents. One of the titles was Charlie and Kiwi: An Evolutionary Adventure written by Eileen Campbell and presented by Peter H. Reynolds and New York Hall of Science, published by Atheneum Books for Young Readers, an imprint of Somon & Schuster Children's Publishing Division.

When Charlie starts to do a report at school about his favorite bird the kiwi, the other students have many questions about how this odd creature can be a bird when it doesn't fly and it has whiskers.  That evening Charlie goes home and, with the help of his stuffed friend Kiwi, a gift from his parents after their trip to New Zealand, Charlie learns exactly how the kiwi birds of New Zealand became perfectly evolved for the island of New Zealand!

Thanks to Charlie's curiosity, he takes a trip back in time, where Charlie and some friendly travelers learn some interesting facts about how birds evolved from dinosaurs, how evolution works, and how the kiwi, specifically, grew whiskers, became nocturnal, and became flightless, among other characteristics by learning about natural selection and adaptation.

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The story is dynamic and interesting! I love the illustrations as well. Although my kids are teens, I would DEFINITELY have read this book a time or two to them when they were growing up.

HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!
If you are wanting to introduce this advanced concept to your young ones, this 48-page book will keep their attention and explain evolutionary terms in ways that are very understandable and very clear.
It is probably for ages 4-10.

While looking online for a useful image for this post I came across the website for the New York Hall of Science...NICE!!!!  The page has some video and lots of downloads for use with the book.
Even NICER!

Thanks again, Frau B!

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Other posts you might enjoy:
Book Review by John John
Frau B Suggestions for Freethinker Titles
Ex-Believers Come Hither!
Books for Your Skeptical Children
Secular Homeschool Materials
 

I Wish More Homeschoolers were Secular

 atheist secular homeschoolers
I've been reading around the blogosphere a bit this afternoon (HEY, I've been cleaning and THAT gets boring!) and I found myself reading some blogs that aren't exactly secular...if you know what I mean. Here on my blog I tend to remind readers that homeschoolers are not all Christian and are not all teaching non-science.

But...I'm feeling very discouraged right now.

It's true. Isn't it?  Most homeschoolers are fundamental Christian and tend to skew science and history. It makes me sad and discouraged and annoyed and upset about all of those kids out there who are not getting genuine science or genuine history.

DAMN.
All of those people out there who are disparaging homeschool for the way people can hide in it and avoid learning real knowledge instead of of teaching other than a small world view are right.

I find it terribly upsetting that parents who want to do the best for their children are convinced that raising their kids in the church the best that they can offer. The propaganda of the church is probably the best in the world, ever.

People actually ignore, discount, or treat as mysterious the truly corrupt, unsavory, destructive parts of religion and the holy books in order to live in the saccharine, cloying falseness of the facade of religion. I honestly can't understand a preference like that.

Today my kids and I have been having conversations about how to parent. It is so clear to me that kids take what they have learned and pass it down to generations...how I would prefer to see more homeschoolers homeschooling in a secular way.

Do you have thoughts on the matter?
I would love to read your opinion.

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You Might Also Enjoy:

SOOO Glad we Homeschool

You Are Not Alone

Why I Blog for Secular Parents

The Sinister Side of Parenting

This article The Sinister Side of Homeschooling and this blog called Homeschooling's Invisible Children have been my reading this evening. I warn you, you will not forget these stories of real children who have been horribly abused by their parents. 

The common element in all of the stories is that all of the families claim to homeschool in order to cover up positively horrific abuse.

Which begs the question, without getting all militant on homeschoolers because some parents are douche bag abusers, what can be done to protect at-risk kids who are being abused in abject horror and out of sight using homeschool as their protection?

Does that mean we should be suspect of homeschooling?

The knee-jerk reaction is to impose tons of restrictions and supervision on homeschoolers. 

But abusive people are great at hiding their abuse. No supervision requirement would ever uncover those kids who are being hidden.

From "To Train a Child"

Many of the stories contain references to Michael and Debi Pearl's To Train Up a Child and other fundamental Christian doctrine, but I have no illusions that the people who abuse under those ideas are no more Christian than they are homeschoolers.

I find the existence of people like this abhorrent. Absolutely the antithesis of a homeschooling parent, or any homeschooling parent that I know. 

I have talked to too many people who have experienced subpar homeschooling conditions growing up to act like it doesn't happen. Bad parents can be found in every sphere of life, every form of education (or lack thereof), every religion, every strata, every socioeconomic level, every continent, everywhere. 

Does that mean we should be suspect of parenting? 

 What do you think?????

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More posts like this one:

A Very Damaging List Against Homeschooling

Teaching Things That I Don't Know

Prospective Homeschool Parenting: Part 4 of 5: Negatives of Homeschooling

For Someone Who Doesn't Believe in God, You Sure Talk about Him Alot

homeschool atheist blog, secular homeschool, raising freethinkers 

LOL...yes, I've heard this one before. The first time I heard it I thought I would spit out my coke.

It was on Facebook a couple of years ago and I was still FB friends with a coworker of my husband at that point. I can't remember exactly what I had written, but it was fairly innocuous. I'm not exactly in your face with this stuff.

She came back with the comment, For someone who doesn't believe in god, you sure talk about him alot.

I thought to myself Do I?

So I took her claim seriously and looked back in my FB statuses for the three months prior to her observation.  Guess what I found. NONE. I hadn't written a single thing except for that one meme that I had posted that day.

None.

But what she was commenting on, of course, is the fact that I am an open atheist and I am always an open atheist and she knows that fact no matter what I post. Her awareness of my disbelief kept her quite upset.

Eventually she unfriended me and I was quite ready for it. This woman is very fond of my husband and I liked her too but her daily Catholic posts had gotten a bit tedious and she was constantly commenting about my atheism. I stuck around for the pics of her kids.

But the REAL answer to her question:  of course I talk about it. The overt discrimination toward atheists, toward reality and logic and critical thinking in this country, toward freethought is ridiculous. And I do intend to stay open about my atheism because it is so very risky to do so in this country. I will talk about it because I think it is essential for the next generations to have reality out there. I sincerely want to resist religion.

The thing is, I understand her comment because this is the stuff that she is told. This is the brilliant wisdom that the church offers to explain atheism to believers in their churches. Trite, ineffectual, shallow stuff. Fear, attempts at humor, attempts to discredit, logical fallacies, insults, and certainty that atheists are so wrong and dangerous and laughable.

Christians actually wonder where atheists get their morality, wonder whether we have anything to truly offer to the world, are doubtful that atheists can truly be patriotic, and feel perfectly in their right to despise atheists. 

Why wouldn't atheist be angry about that?

And so, for someone who doesn't believe in any gods, I guess I DO talk about religion alot. And I will continue to do so ... even if I am the lone voice out here.


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For more posts like this one:
It Takes More Faith to be an Atheist
Just in Case He's Real
Atheists Can't Experience True Joy
Your Life Has No Meaning
You Were Never a Real Believer

My Pinterest friend Helena Handbasket commented:
There was a time when atheists were burned at the stake. Now some of us talk proudly about our atheism to let others know they are not alone in rejecting ancient beliefs. The internet spells the end of religion.