OK, People, one more time.If someone you know tells you that their feelings get hurt every so often, don't say, "YOU ARE... *frown* ... SO SENSITIVE..." *shaking head*
No, Folks.
Instead, think:
I love this person, I can be a bit more gentle today...
They had the courage to tell me, and they trusted me enough,
I can be a bit more kind...
Thank you!
ReplyDeleteThis struck a chord with me. For most of my life I was told, by my family, that I was too thin-skinned. To a large degree, they were right. But it became a convenient defense: blaming me for my reaction to something that had been said, when the person in question was actually being a huge jerk. Besides, why was my temperamental tendency to be very sensitive less valid and worthy of acceptance than someone else's blunt or confrontive nature?
ReplyDeleteStephanie, we MAY be sisters.
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I'm glad my post helped. It took awhile of being a parent to realize how their claim that I am "SO SENSITIVE" is simply another way of saying, "We don't change. and it's your own fault that our unkindness hurts you."
Welcome to adulthood and better mental health!!!!